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Speed Dating Tips for when the Nerves Strike.
1. Everyone gets nervous to some degree when embarking on online speed dating.
If you are the really shy type perhaps you could stick a post-it note on your
computer screen (out of sight of the web cam), so that you can remember what
you want to ask.
2. Alternatively, have a photo of your favorite location or celebrity pinned up
on the wall behind your screen to help you relax.
3. You are going to meet plenty of people in the one session, so once you get
past the first one or two, you will be feeling more relaxed anyway. Once you
have your routine in place the butterflies will soon vanish.
4. If you become really flustered or anxious, be honest and tell the date that
you are a little nervous. Chances are, they are too.
5. Don't despair if you feel that you have really blown it. There are many
people out there who prefer to date the less confident type than the overly
self assured.
Honesty and Online Speed Dating.
If you have signed on to a dating site as a single person seeking a
relationship and this is not the case, you are just wasting every one's time.
There are many alternative sites out there for those who are seeking other
romantic pursuits. Being dishonest with such a fundamental basic is unfair to
everyone else.
The great advantage of online speed dating is that you are able to evaluate
your date's face while they are talking to you. It is therefore much easier to
get a feel for whether they are telling the truth.
If you feel that they are skirting the truth, being evasive or not telling the
truth, follow your instincts. You will almost always be right with your first
impression.
No Matches. Now What?
Horror of horrors! You have spent the hour online speed dating and no one gave
you a tick.
Do not despair. Think about all the times you have been at bars or parties and
not met anyone either. Not everyone has a great night every time they go out.
Think of the speed dating event as honing up on your social skills.
Perhaps your questions came over as too much like an interrogation?
Maybe it just wasn't your night.
Was there something you inadvertently said or did? Obviously, mentioning gaol
time, nasty diseases and the like, would not further your romantic chances. Do
you have some nervous habit or tic that others might find off putting?
Rethink your strategy and get back online. The great thing about online speed
dating is that there is always next time.
Your Mr or Ms Right could be just one click away!
Spoilt for Choice. Too Many Matches.
Were you on fire at the online speed dating event?
Does everyone want to spend more time with you?
Booked solid for the next two weeks?
Could this be a good thing? Or a bad thing?
At face value, after a possible dating slump, being pursued by a plethora of
singletons is fantastic for the ego. Do you really need to date 15 people in
the next few weeks though? Be honest to yourself, and to them. Any dates who
didn't really appeal to you should probably not be pursued. No one is looking
for half hearted. Select the dates that really appealed to you and leave the
others for someone else.
However, if you thought they were all fantastic, then you have a lot of first
dates to get through! The problem with this is keeping track of who is who.
However, those dates looking for almost instant monogamy may be put off by
having to wait a couple more weeks to see you again.
There is no need to be greedy. Be selective and date the singles that really
appealed to you the most.
Online speed dating. Making the most of your every
minute!
Meeting in Person. Online Speed Dating Safety.
You are finally going to hook up in person. Follow these internet speed dating
tips to ensure your personal safety:
1. Meet in a busy venue.
2. Stay sober. Alcohol can impair your judgement.
3. Use your own transport. You do not want to be reliant on someone else to get
you home if you do not trust them.
4. Tell someone where you are going and with whom.
5. Check in with a friend when the date is over.
6. If you feel uneasy, cut the date short. You should always follow your
instincts.
7. Do not give out personal information like home or work address until further
down the relationship. If it doesn't work out, you don't want to be stalked, do
you?
8. Keep an eye on what you are consuming. Drink spiking is a real issue.
9. Have an emergency exit plan in place, just in case.
10. Pay for your share of the bill. This leaves you with no sense of
obligation.
Eyes on the Prize."
How to work that Web Cam to your Advantage.
Time is of the essence with online speed dating. You need to be able to ensure
that the dates you are interested in are similarly attracted to you. How can
you do this in a limited time frame?
The answer is very simple: Body language!
The web cam can be your very best friend here as those online singles can only
see you from the chest up.
One of the strongest body language signals we possess is our eyes.
Subconsciously when we see something we want, we tend to stare. We also tend to
blink more rapidly. Glancing up and glancing away are also strong flirting
signals.
We are all programmed to respond instinctively to these sorts of signals. We
all gravitate to people whom we perceive as liking us.
Use that web cam and your eyes to impress those singles speed dating!
Are you prepared for Online Speed Dating?
Follow this check list to ensure your internet speed dating event runs
smoothly:
1. Check that your web cam and microphone are working properly, well before the
session starts.
2. Give yourself the once over in the mirror. Smudged lipstick and eye make up
are not a good look. Similarly, food around the mouth or teeth is not a winner
either.
3. Brush your hair.
4. Attach a post-it note to your screen with any questions you have. Ensure it
is out of sight of the web cam.
5. Have a glass of water handy. All that talking will give you a dry throat.
6. Try not to wave your hands around too frantically while you are talking.
Sometimes, the closer your hands get to the camera, the bigger they will look.
7. Check out what else is going to be sent down your web cam for all your
potential matches to see. Is there anything on display behind you that may
compromise your personal safety? No embarrassing baby photos of yoursel on display?
8. Is your location quiet and private? Have your house mates been advised not
to barge in on you while you are online speed dating?
9. Stay sober. It is easier to give a good impression when you are lucid. You
do not want all those potential matches thinking you may have substance abuse
problems. You will also be able to think faster without the Dutch courage.
10.Try and relax. Online speed dating is a fun way to
meet singles!
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