Overcoming First Time Jitters

For veterans of Internet and speed dating, online speed dating will be nothing new . just an extension of what they already know. But what if you're new to the entire scene?

Don't worry: the process is easy and fun. Below are answers to some common questions and concerns for those new to the Internet dating phenomena.

Isn't Computer Dating for Losers?

Some people have a negative image of computer dating in their minds, associating it with stereotypical .computer geeks. and people who've blown it with everyone they know. Nothing could be further from the truth.

True, once upon a time you were expected to find love with someone from your social circle. These days, however, social circles have moved online. Social networking sites such as MySpace and Facebook have taken the place of house parties and face-to-face events. The widespread popularity of such networks, demonstrates that people are just as eager as they ever were to keep in touch with friends online as much as in person. With our social networks moving online, it only makes sense that dating follows the same route.

Churches and social groups, once the accepted places to meet others, no longer serve the functions they once did. The simple fact is, these days it's hard to get to know people. Sure, there's the bar . but if you're sick of sagging on bar stools every weekend, making conversation with drunks and coming home smelling like beer, computer dating might be a great alternative!

Is It Safe?

As safe as any other date. Basically, the rules apply to Internet dating, as they would apply to meeting someone at a regular speed-dating event, or at the bar for that matter. Trust your instincts. Meet in public places. Get to know each other before allowing yourself to be in an isolated situation.

As long as you follow the rules of common sense, Internet dating is as safe as anything else!

Why Should I Pay to Meet People?

Actually, Internet dating is relatively inexpensive . certainly less than endless rounds of drinks at the bar! Keep in mind that you're not paying people to talk to you. You're paying the facilitators for going to the trouble of organizing the event . much like paying the cover charge at a club.

Isn't Everyone on the Computer Pretending to be Someone Else?

No. Most people computer dating are just like you: regular people finding it difficult to meet someone they connect with in today's society. While some people do go online with less than noble intentions, those people tend to stand out like a sore thumb. If the resemblance to your favourite movie star is just a little too striking, you might want to get suspicious.

In addition, this problem is reduced even further through online speed dating. Sure, you could still be dealing with an impostor . but you'll probably be able to see the person face-to-face, which means no doctored photos to deal with. Besides, most people find it a lot harder to deceive people they're talking to than to make up lies in an anonymous profile.

What if my Friends Find Out?

They'll probably want to know more about it. This is more of a concern for men than women, as girlfriends tend to be pretty supportive of any attempt to find a mate. As far as men are concerned, though, showing up with a hot chick who clearly adores you will stop most of the teasing in its tracks. Besides, you might be surprised how many of them have been involved in speed or computer dating themselves.