Signs it's Over

Putting energy and time into a relationship is a two-way street. If you find that you.re doing all the work, or you.re not sensing the commitment from your partner that you.d like, it might be time to think about ending things.

The worst trap you can fall into is staying in a relationship because you.re afraid to be alone. Singles in their late twenties to mid-thirties, women in particularly, sometimes feel that a relationship is .the best they can do.. Don.t fall into that type of thinking. If you.re unhappy with someone, you.re better off returning to the dating scene, intimidating though that may be. In the long run, you.ll be happier on your own than with someone you don.t really love. Here are some signs it.s time to walk away:

·             Sexual, physical, verbal, or emotional abuse of any kind. Your partner should make you feel your best. If they don.t, something.s wrong.

·             Constant, loud, or hurtful arguments

·             Belittling or name-calling from your partner

·             Reluctance to be together

·             Extreme and exaggerated annoyance with your partner.s every move

·             Strong feelings toward another person

·             Disagreements you simply can.t resolve .family, lifestyle, values, or religion are common culprits

·             Feeling the other person is intruding on your life

·             Resenting the other person.s presence

Reasons Not to End It

On the other hand, beware of being too .choosy. . of rejecting someone out of fear of commitment, or a mere case of nerves. Sometimes differences that seem insurmountable can still be worked through. You should try to keep working at the relationship if:

·             You still have strong feelings for the other person

·             You can.t stand the thought of life without them

·             The .pros. of your relationship outweigh the .cons.

·             You.re willing to compromise

·             Your partner is willing to compromise

·             In spite of everything, you still feel happier with your partner than you do with anyone else

Bad Ways to Save It

If you do find yourself in a situation where your relationship has serious problems, it.s fine to try to salvage it. Counselling can work wonders, as can simply talking through your problems. However, there are a couple things that never work.

·             Get married. After the initial glow fades away, the problems will remain, with the added burden of your marriage on top of them.

·             Have a baby. The results will be the same as with marriage, and worse yet, you.ll have brought an innocent life into an unhappy family situation.

·             Sleep together. If you.re not sleeping together now, it.s unlikely to solve any of your problems. The decision to sleep together should be made out of love and without any reluctance, not under pressure.

·             Try to change your partner. Stereotypically women fall into this trap, but men are just as much at risk. Your partner is who he or she is. Either you can live with your differences or you can.t, because they aren.t likely to change.