Online Speed Dating - Dating in a Flash (Letting Go)

Of course, it.s always possible that your first date didn.t work out. There was no connection, or the spark fizzled without a computer screen between you. That.s okay! You can always try again with another partner, or even go on another speed dating event. The key is to get out and meet people, and you.re doing that. You.re on the right track!

You might find yourself wanting to be friends with the other person, and if they feel the same way, that.s perfectly acceptable . in fact, you might wind up connecting with one of their friends! But you have to remember that your partner might want to go their separate way. If that.s the case, accept it and move on.

Polite Ways to End Things

One of the hardest things to do can be to let someone down kindly. No one wants to hurt another person or make them feel bad, but it.s always possible that your partner felt a connection you didn.t. If that.s the case, you owe it to both of you to let them know that you don.t feel the same way.

· Be honest. Your goal isn.t to hurt them but to give them the truth so they can start looking at other potential matches. If you can politely state the reason go ahead, but if you feel it would be hurtful to do so, give a general reason (for example, .I just don.t think we connected..)

· If you want to be friends, make your intentions clear. It.s not fair to lead someone on.

· If you don.t want to be friends, then don.t suggest it. There.s no point saying you want to hang around with someone you don.t really like; it will only cause trouble in the end.

· Consider the other person.s feelings. There.s no really nice way to let someone down, but try to think about how you would want to be treated.

· Don.t delay. If you know at the end of the first date that you.re not interested in continuing to see your partner, say so. It.s always kinder to say such things in person than through email. In person, your tones of voice and facial expressions communicate as much as your words. Email reduces your message to the simple facts.

· If you do choose to communicate through email, be very conscious of how your words will sound to the other person. When you read your own words, you tend to read them as you would say them. Try to see them from someone else.s point of view.

Coping When It Doesn.t Work

No matter who decides to end it, you may experience feelings of discouragement when your first date doesn.t sizzle. After all, you went into the speed date hoping to meet someone you connected with, and you thought you had. It.s okay to feel a bit down when it doesn.t work out. The key is not to be depressed.

Remember, out of twenty potential dates you probably connected with more than one person. Even if it.s been a while since the speed-dating event, get in touch with one of them if you haven.t. They might have connected with someone else, but you never know: they just might be waiting for you!

Regardless, the most important thing right now is that you continue to put your best foot forward. Keep socializing and keep your spirits up, even if you.re not in a position to date someone else right now.

· Go out with friends, even friends of the same sex. You never know who you.ll meet.

· Don.t be afraid to talk to people. There.s a difference between picking up a stranger and striking up a conversation with someone, and if you remember the conversational tips from your speed date, you.ll be in a good position to do the latter.

· Keep yourself well groomed and well dressed. That doesn.t mean you have to be a fashion plate, but you should take some pride in your appearance. Not only will this make you more attractive to others, it will make you feel better about yourself.

· Surround yourself with friends and people who appreciate you. Do things you love and are good at. You never know when things will fall into place.

· Don.t be afraid to try a second speed dating event, or even a third! Sometimes it takes a few tries to get things right.